Well, I’ve officially been a consultant with my awesome company for over 5 years now, and with that comes the 5 year anniversary mark of my marriage to one of the most wonderful women in the world. I am blessed beyond belief to have such an amazing and wonderful partner to share this life with!
I had a message from a friend, and while we were chatting about work and the fact that he’s working on the healthcare.gov rescue project (another post on that coming another day), it came up that he’s been dating his girlfriend for a long time. Like 4+ years. I have no judgement on that, this is all in the way of backstory. He asked me “how do you know when you’re ready”, referring to proposing, this is what I said:
for me, there was a moment when I realized that I couldn’t see myself living without her. That I wanted to experience everything in life with her as my partner through and through. I then decided that I was willing to going to go all in on the relationship, to put her before me and to do everything I can forever to serve her and keep her happy. When I realized that doing that would bring me the utmost in joy and I didn’t want to live in a world where I wasn’t doing that every day, I had to make it happen
the conversation continued:
I can get a little religious with that, too – but from a straight up emotional prospective, I feel like that was what happened.
The key to my marriage, is that I make the decision to love her and serve her every single day, regardless of how I feel. And I think that is why life is so wonderful
He then asked me: “and she reciprocates that by doing the same for you?”
indeed. but even if she doesn’t, it won’t change the fact that I will.
and if you’re not ready for that, that’s totally fine, but make sure you are ready for it before you take things there
Anyway, I thought it was worth recording, and I hope you can be as blessed in your marriage as I am!